Ok, me and H have a long and complicated history. I left about 10 years ago and was quite happy with me and the kids on my own. I left with nothing and never got divorced. I just worked and the kids and I were ok.
Anyway, he said last year he couldn't pay his mortgage (he was still in the family home) anymore. He'd given up work to work the stock market (day trading and not a professional) some years ago, had sold another house he had and now had no money left.
I was just in the process of buying a house (A share as I couldn't afford another mortgage) and so I said maybe things would work and he could have the spare room. So he sold up as well.
I thought maybe things had changed and I'd been quite ill beforehand so was a bit of a mess tbh and I know now I shouldn't have.
Anyhow, same old. He never speaks to me and I work 40 hours a week outside the home. We have 3 kids and I literally do everything. I am so tired of doing it all when he's sat at home all day on his backside staring at a screen and can't even be bothered to wash up some cups before I come home. I have no idea about his finances now.
He never takes the kids out and hardly speaks to the girls.
Today he went out for a bit and it smells in his room which is just off the hallway and it smells when he opens his door. He doesn't open his windows and has his blinds down all day and night (because of his computer screens I guess).
So when he was out, I put a little air freshener on his window sill and when he got back he got really angry shouting at me to leave his stuff and space alone.
The house is in my name and I don't want a stinking room that never sees daylight or air as I'm worried about mould ( he actually had mould in there a while ago and had to throw stuff out).
He did give me some money to go towards my share (about 50K out of approx £350 he got) but before this I'd never seen anything out of of either house sale.
The trouble is he's got my youngest (boy) wrapped around his little finger now and he's getting upset and asking questions.
I don't think it can go on like this.
Where do I start?
Was I BU to go into his room and open the window for a bit and put an air freshener in there ?
I feel really trapped because this time I know I can't just leave as the house is in my name.