Why when you split does the ex who caused the split become so infuriating?
So my ex cheated and instantly became nasty from the moment I confronted him about it.
For 18months he built a life with someone else behind my back, gas lit me when ever I questioned changes in him and then said he did it all because I didn't give him enough attention! The other woman was told we had split and he had full custody of DD so couldn't see him often but finally questioned him when he refused let her meet DD still until she found out he lied to her and told me everything!
He blamed me for everything and demanded 50:50 with our DD (as he said he wouldn't pay me a penny), our home was bought a few months earier (rented it prior)in his name (convinced me he got a great deal and was for the best - stupidly believed him) so he changed the locks when I left that 1st night to stay at my mums with DD and told me it was his house - I was just a tenant apparently and had no rights as not married just together for 15yrs.
Through shock and grief I went with it and tried make the best of it for DD but over time his relationship with DD deteriorated and now she refuses to stay.
The amount of times DD & ex have fallen out over his attitude and behaviour towards her is ridiculous but I'm blamed everytime.
He ignores her for days after and expects her to apologise.
His mum is just as bad as her precious son can do no wrong and she feels it's acceptable/appropriate to tell (when she sees her) or messages DD telling her she's naughty, mean to her dad, vile etc then says she loves her and will always be there for her etc
I have tried sorting via solicitor to no avail and mediation which I agreed to and did 1st session to find he then refused it after (but gave no reasoning why even though his solicitor suggested it and found the mediator).
Currently DD is with me full time and sees him occasional for tea or something for a few hrs. He even stopped helping with school pick ups.
So I applied for Child maintenance as its been 3months now she's not stayed with him at all and only spent a few hrs here and there with him due to the issues between them.
He was not happy when he got the CM letter! He even text thanking me for his letter and telling me his solicitor said what I would get would be less than he pays now so to think carefully about going theough with it as its all I will get (he only pays me 1/2 her breakfast club about £45 and if he can bothered 1/2 her school dinners £40 a month). I know CM doesn't include these its only for basic needs but he thinks if he pays anything via them it covers everything and he won't pay a penny more.
I pay everything else Inc her activities she has always done.
I know he earns alot as he always bragged he earnt way more than me when together but has told CM he earns NMW so I have to fight this and now he has also told them he has her 3 days a week!
Honestly don't understand why he is being like this! Argh!
Sorry for the rant but he infuriates me