Ex fired mid divorce

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We are shorty due to have our 1st joint mediation session and but last week ex announced he had been fired for GM (2nd H&S incident).

Aside from the obvious terror about paying bills (unfortunately still under same roof) I have no clue where this leaves the financial negotiations, especially as he may well now find it really difficult to get similar work.

Last thing I can afford is a solicitor but is this something that I absolutely must do? I am desperate to get this sorted and move in.

A mediator can help you think things through

but you’ll likely need legal
advice too

is the gm accusation correct or will he be countering that ?

it could absolutely impact his ability to pay and seek alternative employment

what is your working situation ?

Yes accusation is valid

I am FT but for various reasons much lower earning capacity than him.

Thankfully much older DC but what I'm mostly concerned about is him being awarded a bigger settlement because he doesn't have a job, albeit caused by his actions.

That’s possible
bit they will look at the assets available, your earnings and earnings capacity ( his will likely be assessed on his latest prior one), plus your respective needs and ability to house yourselves. He could argue now is needs are greater but he might not get away with that

if needs can be met 50:0 that’s likely or near there. You may try to claim more capital if you think he won’t pay cms ( if still applicable)

Thank you, I just can't believe it. As if life isn't bad enough at the moment

Cynical me wonders if it's been done deliberately?! He'll get divorce settlement in his favour and then get a very well paid job!!

He will be expected to get a job, as close to his previous salary as possible, when it comes to allocating finances you should be encouraged to assume he will be in similar position as before.

I literally cannot cope having him here. He's clearly having some sort of breakdown, just sleeps or drinks in his room. His room is a pig sty and it's literally like having a 3rd teenager. I know losing his job will have hit him hard but there's always been a list of excuses why he couldn't do his share of parenting/housework/life admin. His behaviour is nothing new.

He has applied for one job and approached one agency. If that was me I'd be making it my mission to secure work and/or pulling my weight around the home.
now I'm refusing to 'fix' things I see the full horror.

He refuses to move out and it's clearly having a massive effect on DC one of whom is already severely depressed.

I just don't know what to do. It's like he's just
laughing at me kill myself working and doing everything else