False accusations of domestic violence

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A close relative has been falsely accused of very serious DV by his ex wife think ABH, coercive behaviour etc. How best can I advise him? They only got married last year having been together for a v long time. She's a vindictive character, at ease with telling lies and I think her main motivation for this is that she's been having an affair with DH best mate and is looking for a way to justify her behaviour to save face amongst her friends and perhaps to prevent ex from custody of kids. She has also been physically abusive to ex (throwing bunches, spitting, hitting) - he never reported it. I think she is struggling mentally which is exacerbated by drinking (new partner is a big drinker) and when she drinks she becomes aggressive/more hateful.
I feel like the police are biased. There are so many holes in her story. Will the police investigate fairly?

Well, I'll get this out of the way.

How do you know who is the guilty party is here, where is your information coming from. It's very common for abused people to 'seem' crazy because they are reacting to behaviour in the home. The abuser then steps back and sadly shakes their head and says 'see, she's crazy'.

Not saying this is the case here but important to establish the facts before we advise and I'm predicting what people will ask, lots of us will have been on the other side of the scenario I have described.

He can call Mankind for advice or Victim Support.

in my case I was told I could have given myself the huge bruises and that audio recordings of him threatening to kill me were not admissible in court, that standing at the end of our cul de sac all day so I couldn’t leave the house was not technically a breach of bail and therefore I was safe .. etc etc etc I wouldn’t worry, often men are given the benefit of the doubt and coercive control is so notoriously hard to prove in court that most lawyers won’t touch it
hope that helps

@Cerialkiller well im making my own judgement based on how well I know them both, conversations i've had with her amd him over the years, things i've witnessed between them - i can't say because its too outing.

@Cerialkiller i don't think she seems crazy. I think she has developed an alcohol problem that makes her aggressive, and she seems to have spiralled out of control, become reckless since embarking on her new relationship.

Thanks for clarifying, I was predicting pages of similar questions so thought i would get that answered early.

Family court is often unpredictable and sometimes individual support workers can let their own biases effect their reports etc so its really difficult to say which way it will go. I would stress that if he is the innocent party he will need to ensure that he tries to stay the calm and reasonable one and doesn't engage in tit for tat as that can be seen as both parties being as bad as one another.

He should try to make/keep a diary or timeline of event to build up evidence. Ensure to keep all his interactions with authorities child focused, what is best for them, not how crap she is etc. If he has any concrete proof of her unreasonable behavior/his reasonable behavior in the form of texts, emails, screenshots he should gather them and secure them somewhere safe where she can't delete them.

Realistically if her accusations are focused on how he treated her, it shouldn't effect access to the kids even if he is found to be in the wrong. The marriage is obviously over, he should focus on his relationship with the children. Ideally he should get access court ordered as part of this process so she can't play silly buggers later.