Would he get 50/50

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Hi

I know no one can tell me for certain but I'm an anxious mum.

I've got a 1 year old with my ex, we never lived together and split up when I was pregnant. I've always lived in the same place. He lives 1.5-2hrs away.

I suppose it's not relevant in court but he didn't want me to continue with the pregnancy. We had hardly any contact the entire time as he was either horrible or in denial. So I've done everything on my own.

I have older children from a previous marriage, who live with me 50/50. Their Dad lives close and we all get along well so this works, but does mean my 1 year old only sees her siblings every other week. Despite this they all have a very close relationship and little one adores big brother and sister.

I have gone back to work and my 1 year old is settled in routine and nursery 4 days a week and is happy. I was hoping for DC to go to the same school as older siblings eventually. Just been trying to build a stable life where we are.

My ex has been getting a bit better with contact with our DC. He met DC soon after birth but then had sporadic contact like sometimes would go 6-8 weeks without seeing our child. Lately it's been maybe twice a month.

He now says he will be taking me to court for an arrangement order, he wants 50/50 custody. No plans to move, he has a house where he lives, has said he wouldn't move closer to my area.

Is he likely to get this or anything close if he lives so far away?

I'm also concerned about possibly losing weekends and family time with all my children together, after working and doing all the running around all week, worried my DC won't see the elder siblings as much.

Thank you

He's delusional. 2 nurseries, if they're both private, I guess is possible. 2 schools? hahaha, just shows he doesn't have a clue.

From the little you've said, i agree he's certainly got the disordered thinking we so often see in narcissists.

Obviously, no one can say 100% but I'd tell him to let you know when the court date is. He's just threatening and blustering because he's pissed you're asking for money.

Agree with this. If he goes to court with that proposal, the judge will see it for what it is - a cynical attempt to avoid CMS.

Im saying that as someone who thinks 50/50 should be the norm.

the court will always look at what’s in the best interests of the child. No one thinking about their kids interests would suggest 2 different schools.

also, it’s important that your child is able to maintain a relationship with their siblings, so if he wants 50/50, he’ll have to move closer to you. I bet this idea goes away as soon as it involves him having to move his life to be close to his child.

I’d say let him to go to court with this plan.

id speak to a solicitor, but I would say that if there is any argument over care, then you get an arrangement that says that if he is unable to care for your child overnight, then she stays with you. DC is still very young and by the sounds of it, doesn’t have much of a relationship with his side of family.