So, DH has decided to move out. He's been saying that he's unhappy a few weeks ago and didn't love me anymore. However, he agreed we'd at least try to salvage our marriage. We've been married for 10 years, together for 20 and have a 7-year-old DS. I'm also nearly 40 weeks pregnant by now.
In the past few weeks, I've tried to find things for us to do together, to reconnect. I've booked a holiday because we haven't actually been away properly in ages. I had suggested counselling but he wasn't keen.
He'd been going out more and more with friends/colleagues in recent months. Because we live a bit further out, he'd been staying over at a friend's house and usually didn't come back from the pub until the next morning at around 8am. (I had asked him to at least take the last train home, which leaves at around 11.30pm but that apparently wasn't late enough. It was like living with a teenager, whose just been allowed out drinking...)
He'd been home the last few weeks because of an injury and hadn't been able to go to work. We tried to spend more time together, go for lunch, etc. but I didn't want to push it and give him space as well. He's now been back at work the past week and spent 4 nights "going out" with friends. The last few days, he kept coming home at random times, told me he'd have to talk to me and then left again because he needed space to think. (It's the summer break here now and DH is a teacher so doesn't need to go back to work. He's also meant to be on parental leave now until October half term.) Yesterday, he promised he'd made up his mind, had decided to come home for good and was sorry. A few hours later, he packed his bag and told me he'd go to stay at a hotel, that there was no point and there's nothing left to salvage. He wants to find happiness and apparently I'm not the person to find it with. I'm hurt and confused, as is DS, who'd been asking for days why his dad wasn't at home and kept leaving.
I don't know what to do now. I can possibly afford the house by myself. Our mortgage is cheaper than renting in the area. I have managed to calculate the child support I should get and we can be OK on that. (I dont know what his plan is now...whether there's someone else...) I'm the higher earner anyway, although I'll be on mat pay for the next year so it could get a bit tight. We are abroad, which means we need to have lived separately for a year before we can file for divorce. I'm not sure where to go from here...