Ex’s Stuff: Can I dump it outside his?

[drainedparent]

So I had some of my old stuff and sons stuff at my exes house. His son’s stuff too. His mam collected my stuff and when I’ve went through the bags, he’s bagged rubbish from his bedroom and also his shite like his clothes.

i don’t see why it should be up to me to dispose of it. He’s done it deliberately. His new girlfriends sister is a police officer, I don’t want to get done for fly tipping, but I really want to bag up what isn’t mine and either put in his shed or at his. I know I could save drama by just taking it to the tip but it’s not the point. If I message about it, he’ll tell me to bin it, but it isn’t my responsibility. I’m chronically ill and it’s gonna take me ages to get through it

@drainedparent everyone agrees that him dumping you with a load of his rubbish is crap, that he's clearly a tosser and he deserves some kind of revenge but... what will you actually gain from dumping it in his front garden?

Options available:

• bag it all up, drive it to his house - likely outcome, abuse and some kind of pettiness from him
• bag it all up, take it to his mums house - same outcome as above and his mum if unhappy too
• bag it all up, take it to the tip- rubbish is gone, you've not given him the satisfaction of seeing you annoyed by his actions

The workload for you is the same regardless of which option you choose, but with one of the options once the rubbish is out of your home the situation is over, with the other 2 options there is likely to be ongoing fallout.

I agree with @InfoSecInTheCity - take it to the dump and mentally dump him at the same time.

As temping as it would be to drop it back to him, it won't give you the satisfaction you're looking for. Chuck it away and don't ever mention it to him. If he mentions it, shrug and say 'no worries, I binned it' then change the subject. He's looking for a reaction.

As for his gf ranting at you for two hours, just put the phone down, walk away or shut the door. Life is way too short for that kind of crap.