Again this is exactly where I am at too! He's now apparently found a way to buy me out of the home thanks to a loan from the MIL from hell. She is such a stinge, clearly only doing it because she perceives it as winning. STBXH has said "it won't be anywhere near 50% but it's more than you'll get in court. There will be no negotiation, it's that or court before christmas."
His solicitor is so incredibly rude. I am waiting for another aggressive email to land in my inbox with some measly offer. What are my options? Accept some cruddy deal and leave before I am totally bat sh!t crazy, or wait it out. Sit here for the October court date and face the third christmas in this place putting a fake smile on for the kids (who know we are divorcing).
If he can't come up with an offer, he thinks the court will offer me something rubbish and he will get given the house. This man can't feed the kids properly, doesn't enforce hygiene like tooth brushing, doesn't contribute to their costs, doesn't buy them clothes, never used to buy them presents, doesn't even think of putting the kids' to bed unless he has a reminder in his phone. He parents to the same standard he husbands....attrociously.
Aside from 1) accepting potentially crap offer, 2) Waiting for the court date and 3) trying to negotiate potentially crap offer which increases legal costs with each call and email...and if we don;t agree we are back at option 2...there's nothing I can do.
I don't want the house, AT ALL, but I am on the mortgage so I am stuck here because I can't afford this and rent. All the support you get is the legal boffins happy to send another email and charge you another £150 for the pleasure.