Splitting the household furniture etc

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Hi, stbexh is talking about valuing the household furniture/whitegoods etc and adding a value into his settlement from the divorce.

I've offered to share the furniture, there is lots of stuff we have too much of, but he'd "prefer the money" apparently. Is he really entitled to money towards furniture and white goods even if I'm offering to share?

No, clearly he’s not. He can have the furniture - if you wanted to keep it he can have half the current value of it. Do you not have a solicitor?

They will be worth peanuts, it will cost you more arguing it up unless they are antiques. I gave my ex 500 quid and took everything

No, I don't have a solicitor yet. Figured I'd try and agree as much between ourselves 1st before we start paying legal bills.

he does have a solicitor now and is pushing me to agree things but we haven't even agreed what the longer term contact schedule for the kids will look like yet.

Do not discuss or agree anything. If it’s in writing he has an argument it’s legally angreed, even if your solicitor then advises you against it.

It doesn’t need to be antagonistic - my split with my ex was very friendly/ civilised but I still didn’t agree to anything before a solicitor advised me

We've only been separated a month so havent properly settled into a "groove" yet. I had hoped to leave the legalities until he'd calmed down a little.

Drag Your heels then. That’s fine. Just don’t discuss anything with him!!!

When I was young and split from dd's df we wrote items on a piece of paper and shoved in a 'hat'.. Took turns picking a paper.. Worked for us!!. The innocence of youth!!
When I left exh I took the clothes in my back as he refused to let me have anything. I wasn't giving him the satisfaction of being bothered...

Don't discuss anything until you have a solicitor. Don't agree anything. He's not going to be amicable.

Thanks everyone. Am I also right in thinking that I need an idea of the longer term contact schedule with the kids first?

We have 3 dc (16, 8 and 6). The 16 yo won't be going for overnights and the younger 2 dc haven't been going for overnights yet because stbexh is staying with his parents. I could potentially end Up with the kids 80% of the time (I don't see him going for loads of overnight contact), which might have an impact on how we split the house equity?

I'm going to be housing 3 dependants (1 permanently and 2 the majority of the time).
I realise I need to get a solicitor and I will do that soon but just trying to get some basic ideas before I get there.....

Honestly there are so many variables, you really need to get a solicitor.

You wouldn’t normally get a court/ solicitor to agree child contact unless it gets really non amicable. The main part of divorce is a financial contract.