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Don’t know what to do

3 replies

lemonbabe · 10/07/2024 11:29

I’ve been in a relationship for 8 years. We’re both separated and have teenage kids from our past relationships. We all lived together for 5 years but our vast differences in parenting proved too much. He asked me and my kids to leave last year. We found a place and I proceeded to put my life together within this new configuration of living-together-apart.
The main problem we encountered whilst living together was his unruly, arrogant son. My DP never reprimanded him for anything ever! This led to frustration on my part but also the other children. My DP just seemed incapacitated around his son and if ever I tried to readdress things he’d blame me and say I was being aggressive.
Fast forward to now and DP tells me his son’s GF has problems with him (arrogance and disrespect) and that he told his son it’s not acceptable. I’m in disbelief that during 5 years together he didn’t once defend me in front of his son but now he finds it in him to defend son’s GF !! I already feel let down and disappointed that the only ‘solution’ he could find for ‘us’ was to move me and my kids out. This extra nail in the coffin has left me reeling. I’m really wondering if this is all worth it.

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LadyDanburysHat · 10/07/2024 11:41

I'm not sure why you continues to be in a relationship with such a feckless father after you moved out, or why it took him asking you to leave for you to do it?

He sounds like a nightmare.

Greenleavesinthesun · 10/07/2024 11:45

No idea why you have kept the relationship in tact when moving out!

Dump him and find yourself a man who knows how to parent properly. He sounds like a man child himself.

BookArt · 10/07/2024 12:32

Move on. You and more importantly your children deserve to be treated better than that.

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