I need some feedback. Please! I've been married 27 years. We have four kids and a grandchild. My husband and I have never been "matched" sexually - we've never found a comfortable physical relationship in our marriage. Twice he's been "forceful." Let me explain. Once, after traveling to my grandmother's funeral, with three kids with us in a hotel room, he wanted to be together. I was grieving and exhausted. But he wouldn't leave me alone so I consented after the kids were asleep. My heart was broken he'd even suggest it because of the death, and it bothers me today. Another time was right after we brought our fourth child home from the hospital - he was all over me and wouldn't leave me alone even after I kept turning him away. He "cornered" me against a closet and suggested it again so I gave up and used my hand so he'd stop. I cried. Throughout our marriage he's been very moody when it comes to sex - if he gets it often enough he's pretty happy and chatty, but when he doesn't he gets quiet and sulky. I've brought all this up to him - he's apologized and said he doesn't even remember the two above times when I felt so pressured. At this point I hate sex and would prefer to not be together, but I do to keep the peace. He's also very appearance-oriented and I find him just staring at my body pretty often in kind of a creepy way. When our sons (21 and 23 years old) mention meeting someone, his first question is to ask if the girl is hot. I can't imagine another 27 years of this. It's so shallow. My stomach is in knots most of the times he is home. Help! Please give me your honest thoughts.