DH announced in March that he wasn't happy, had never loved me and wanted to separate. It was a total shock - it felt like he became a different person overnight, and I still feel like I'm waiting for my kind and caring husband to come back. My whole life paused at that moment and I entered a sort of weird nightmare parallel universe. As far as I knew, we were very happy and had been making exciting plans for the future - it was going to be a really good year. We've always been able to talk about everything, but as soon as he'd made the announcement he pretty much stopped communicating with me and I became someone he treated as if he barely knows. He'll only talk to me when our DD (age 6) is around. Won't eat with me, won't touch me. A close family member died soon afterwards and he didn't ask how I was. He used to send me lovely messages throughout the day, now nothing. Valentines day was also our 10 year engagement anniversary and he wrote me a beautiful card saying how much he was looking forward to the next ten years. I'm finding the shift incredibly brutal and hard to understand. He agreed to start couples therapy but has made it clear to the therapist that he doesn't see any point in trying to fix the relationship. He's currently living in the attic while looking for a flat, but is travelling for work almost every week (and yes I would not be surprised if it turned out there was someone else involved - it's the only explanation that makes sense to me).
I stumbled across a few articles on 'spousal abandonment syndrome' and it described perfectly what's happened to me. Has anyone else experienced this, and did you EVER find out what was really going on? https://lakelegal.co.uk/uncategorised/spousal-abandonment-syndrome/