Move out temporarily for respite!!

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Ex and I are divorcing but unfortunately have to live under same roof until the house sells.

2 DC late teens.

We have mostly avoided and major rows but the atmosphere is awful - won't go into detail but it's like living with a sulking child. He does zero to help with the house or DC.

Given that neither of us are able to move out would it be unreasonable of me to go and stay at my DB's house whilst he's on holiday for 2 weeks. The break would do me the power of good. It's only 10 minutes drive away.

However I'm worried about how the DC would take it. Obviously at some point they are going to have to get used to it anyway but I don't want them to think I'm abandoning them.
I really need time away from Ex though, it's like living under a permanent black cloud.

I would only do that if you’re able to take the children with you.
If you leave the children at the family home for 2 weeks there is a risk that your STBXH could apply to Court for emergency hearing stating that you’ve abandoned the family home/children and he may stand a chance of gaining residency for the kids. Also, more importantly, how would the kids feel about this? Go and stay for 2 weeks but take the kids with you. Make it clear to husband that it’s temporary only and he can phone you to make arrangements to see the children.

How old exactly are the DCs?

19 and 16! Not really kids 😂

Pretty sure they wouldn't want to go anyway, they have very busy lives and one of them is away for a week during that time anyway.

Why not talk to your kids and see what they think? It's not like they won't be aware of the atmosphere.

As a side note, could a STBX really apply for a court order for abandonment of the family home if you go on holiday for a fortnight??

16 and 19?
Go! Talk to the kids first, make sure they can take care of themselves and know to contact you if necessary, explain to them you need some space and go.

I did this and took young teen DD. Ex changed the locks.

Luckily he then harrassed us so was arrested for that.

Best thing i did in similar circumstances was spend divorce money on driving lessons and a little car for the kids as soon as they were old enough. Gave them the freedom to choose where to be/escape, and reduced contact with XDH when we finally sold the house.