Title for after divorce

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I know I can call myself anything but I wouldn't use Dr as I'm not doctor so I'm thinking I can't use Mrs once I'm divorced? Miss is ridiculous given I'm in my 50s and a mother which leave Ms which I'm not 100% about thought I've changed my title to that for a couple of on line orders.

What did you do?

Strikes me as more shit for women having just read the Mx thread. Men are Mr whether single, married or divorced.

Nothing to stop you from using Mrs - anyone who needs to know if you’re married or single will not be using a title, surely?

I’ve been Ms since my teens though.

Thank you @DisgruntledPelican I know it may sound daft but I wasn't sure if I was allowed to still use Mrs. I'm not interested in a new relationship so no need to pretend to be still married but I wasn't sure if there were legal implications.

I'm in my 50s. I'm still married but go by Ms most of the time. It was only for school stuff and kids medical stuff I went by Mrs. For subscriptions I go by Major, Prince or Lord just for fun. It's great seeing a magazine addressed to Major xxxx drop through the letter box

That's funny @Poachedeggavocado !

By the way the Readly app is great if you like to read magazines and want to save paper. You don't get the thrill of the title though.

I use Ms. I think it’s time that was universal, tbh

Use Ms.
It’s the female equivalent of (my-relationship-status-is-none-of-your-beeswax) Mr.

I'm not so much bothered about what people think my marital status is as not wanting to claim to be something I'm not and causing any official issues.

Of course you can continue using Mrs if you wish. There's no policing of these things. If you're happy to be Mrs then by all means stay Mrs. People who change to Ms do so because they aren't happy being Mrs and prefer Ms. If you don't prefer Ms no one will force you to use it.

In my understanding Ms means "it's none of your business whether I am married or not" and can be used at any stage in life as the female equivalent of Mr.

I was Ms MoodEnhancer before I got married, I am Ms MoodEnhancer now I am married, and if I ever get divorced, I will still be Ms MoodEnhancer. Because my marital status has never and will never be anyone else’s business.

Thank you @OpizpuHeuvHiyo I shall decide in the next month or two when I'm officially divorced.

Going back many years, married women were referred to as Mrs "husbands's christian name" followed by "husband's surname".

So Johns Smith's wife, let's imagine her christian name was Betty, would be Mrs John Smith instead of Mrs Betty Smith.

If she divorced however she might become Mrs Betty Smith which would then enable John's new wife, assuming there was one, to use the name "Mrs John Smith".

Keeping the use of Mrs Smith is convenient in terms of having the same surname as any children of the marriage and it saves a load of admin with bank accounts, passports, driving licence, utility accounts etc.

My children don't mind if I change my surname and certainly wouldn't be that bothered what my title was. I'm thinking I might change my surname as well.

'Lady' 'Lord' 'Rev' whatever. Have fun finding your new identity!

I default to Ms but also use Dr since I am one.

Ms. That's what it's there for: to be the female equivalent of Mr.

Op I'm 55 and been a miss for past 20 years..... doesn't bother me x

I used Ms after my divorce.

I tend to be Ms but really would rather just be Firstname Lastname. I really don't get the need for a title

No legal implications.

I never used Mrs, EVER, on any document or in any conversation, even though married for 25yrs. I never took his name. I was Ms until I did become Dr.

Been divorced about 15yrs and people STILL default to putting Mrs down as my title, drives me bonkers, if I think it matters then I correct it, otherwise, meh. Can't be arsed at this point.

Use it if you want, switch to Ms if you want, totally up to you - but people will still default to Mrs!

Although having said that I prefer children to not use first names for teachers

When a good friend of mine divorced - she had had an abusive dad so didn't want her maiden name, so she chose her mum's maiden name. I kept my married surname only because it's the same as my adult children but I don't like the connection with my ex H. My title has always been Ms though - even when married.

I had to speak to someone on the phone and said no title. He seemed taken aback. He'd asked and I just gave my name so he asked for the title again.

I also don't feel the need for a title, but use Ms when I have to.

Following my divorce I changed my surname to a placename that's significant to me, moved my first name to the middle, and gave myself a nicer first name.

As you can tell I wanted a fresh start!

I’m recently separated and wondering about this too. Ms will probably be my preference but not sure about my surname, DH is awful but there again so is my serial philanderer father so I don’t want his name either, can I just pick something I like?!

Yes @FlyingontheGround if I do change I know what I'm having.

One of my friends has no title. She had to ask the bank quite firmly to remove the title from her bank account and debit card but she got there in the end!!