Time with other parent when they're overseas

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I'm not sure if this is the best place to post this. I have no one irl to talk to so here I am. I moved to the states two years ago to be with him and try to work things out, it's now over so I'm going back to our home country in Europe with our 6 yo. He chose to stay in the US hoping to settle there permanently. Meaning he won't be seeing our child often, now he says he wants to have her for two months every summer and I am not very happy with that arrangement, I want to spent my summer vacation with her too. Any advice or experiences on how to navigate this would be appreciated! thank you!

Say no and let him come back to you with an alternative.

when are you going back? Will he let you leave?

I think that is reasonable. The child needs some time with the other parent.

I agree with PP in that it is reasonable and easier also if he just spends 8 weeks in the summer. I wish my ex would do this with our kids.
and they both have a right to a relationship and this is the easiest way right now.

You need too think about the bigger picture here. Do you have the right to take your child out of the US without his permission?

If not, could he stop you doing that all together until or unless you accept what he is asking for.

Thank you all for your replies. I don't believe he'd ever try to stop me from taking her with me. He's already agreed to our move. I do want him to have a relationship with her, I would have liked him to see her more often but he's not willing to move anywhere closer right now. I also don't want her traveling overseas on her own at such a young age

Does he not plan to collect her? Does he expect her to travel alone?

My cousins did this, they loved the summer with their dad. When they were young he would fly over and visit friends and family and then fly back with them and then do similar at the end of summer. It worked for them.

I did this for many, many years when my parents divorced. I travelled with my mum and stepdad (stepdad's work) and returned to stay with my dad every summer for eight weeks. Leaving my dad at the end of the summer was agony.

What are you expecting if you don’t want your child to visit for long periods in the summer? By moving away that’s what’s your essentially signing up to.
it’s unlikely he’d be expected to come and stay here

have you both spoken about different options ? What can you both compromise on?

Sounds like you will have all the other school holidays?

You would not be unreasonable to ask for a week of the summer holidays though. Is he not intending to come to the UK at all at any point in the year to spend time with her?

Also will he not be at work for a lot of the 8 weeks she is over there as US holiday allowance is usually not much at all.