How often do your children see their dads?

[Boymumxxxx]

Me and my partner have recently spilt. We have a 7 month old baby. We can’t agree on childcare arrangements. I suggested him having him one night in the week so from around 5pm until 8am the next morning then alternate weekends so Saturday night and Sunday day. He is saying he doesn’t want him through the week because he’s in work. That is why I suggested him dropping him back in the morning because he doesn’t live far at all it’s actually on the way to his work. Anyway how often do your children of a similar age see their dads? Thanks

He doesn't want....

What a dick.

A baby of that age I suggest needs to sleep in the same bed every night.

My dc is an adult now but dc dad left me when I was pregnant, I tried to encourage little and often to build a relationship (it didn't work because he kept not turning up) dc didn't remember dad so stopped visiting because dc just cried when he came.
I think dad needs to be seeing him with small intervals between, so seeing dad in the week would be best for dc. It doesn't have to be so many overnights it could be dad seeing dc for a few hours mid week as well as the weekend.

My ex, sees ds for 6hrs on a Sunday.

He won't see ds during the week because 'he works'. I'm not sure what he thinks I do with my days, arrange flowers?

Anyway DS lives with me all the time, his dad is a sort of vague part timer who turns up for a couple of hours and then disappears again. He's never bought a pair of shoes or taken him swimming or clothes shopping. Never taken him to the doctor or dentist or attended a school play or parents evening, or sports day.

The result is DS regards him as fairly disposable. Ex only has himself to blame.

Once DS finds a girlfriend, I doubt ex will see ds more than once or twice a year. It would be sad if it wasn't so completely predictable.

Why are men like this!! Some of them don’t deserve children. I suggested little and often but as he has another child he wanted him over night on the weekend he has him which is why I agreed to one night (not 3 like his other) until he is older. Then through the week I said about one night so he’s having regular contact with him. When all of this starts properly he will be 8 months as he’s just seeing him for a few hours a time atm to build it up

My ex h would come to the house to get stuff and not bother to see the kids as didn't want to be around me. Fucking twat. I'd sit in the same room as him if it was the only way I could see them. They were 18-22 when we split.

My partner has his toddler three nights a week (Thursday afternoon to Sunday morning) and nursery holidays are split 50/50 with alternating weeks. This has been the case since he was 12/13 months old and he's three now. Contact didn't need to be built up the same way it sounds like it does in your situation, though.

One child see's him every other weekend, the eldest child refuses and that's his choice. To be honest the less time they do spend with him the better.. sadly very common and personally I feel frigging stupid for believing in happy endings and lovely family life. That said I enjoy watching my children grow into amazing young people and I'm absolutely determined not to raise men who treat women with such little respect.