Looking for some hope admidst the darkness

[Mummmyof1]

Me (38f) and my wife 47(f) are at a crisis point in our marriage. We don't see eye to eye on anything, our trust generally has disappeared (not with regards to being unfaithful though, neither of us would ever cheat) there has been zero intimacy / affection since our child was born 2.5 years ago. I bedshare with the child and my wife sleeps in a separate room. There are issues steaming from ILs which we cannot seem to resolve. We both need to work on ourselves, and the marriage. I'm happy to try counselling, tackling one issue at a time to try to salvage things but she is too full of resentment at this moment.

What I am trying to ask is has anyone's marriage reached seemingly the very rock bottom and have you come back from there? Is there any hope, even the slightest glimmer.

Hello, I don’t have much experience in this field.
try reading/listening to books listening to podcasts it really does help.
if only so you can help yourself to understand.
I wish you well.

There are so many issues that may be contributing to the current situation. Some of them would be untenable others solvable. Without having your insight into the issues that have driven things to this point it is not really possible to postulate on whether your marriage is salvageable

This sounds so rough, I’m sorry you’re going through it. No specific advice to offer other than. What @Harrietball1 said - there are some amazing podcasts out there and you’d be surprised how many other people have been through your situation. The main thing is that you both have to want to try, which seems to be the stumbling block at the moment, but again you’d be surprised how much advice is out there on the airwaves if you google for it specifically. I left a relationship because it just became so asymmetric, something that my ex has come to admit in recent years. Just remember you deserve to be happy.