Hi in the process of splitting from DP. We have 3 children under 8. He has never looked after all three by himself for more than a couple of hours and only in the house. If he goes out of the house he will only take one child with him. To be honest he can't stand spending more than a couple of hours if that with them. We don't go on full days out because of this. He also does nothing for them at home i.e. getting them ready, breakfast, lunch, dinner, drinks, bedtime etc etc. He says he does enough as he works full time.
He's a classic narc and obviously said he will go for full custody!
Solicitor asked me what arrangement I was thinking of. I said the standard every other weekend one. He asked me if I think he's an able parent and I honestly couldn't answer because I don't see alot of parenting from him. He won't even get up off the sofa when they ask for a drink! But then I've heard of dad's totally stepping up after the split.
He said they can request psychiatrist records from when he had therapy to see if that says anything that would affect his parenting (I know he spoke alot about this).
I don't think it's good for kids not to see their dad but she raised a good question of if every other weekend was a good idea or if the kids wouldn't be looked after.
Obviously all of this is going to enrage the narc as he's being criticised and will have to listen to my opinion so not looking forward to having this conversation.
Has anyone else gone through similar?