I'm so done hating him but I am still so full of resentment and anger at him.
We separated 2.5 years ago after 25 years. Don't want to drip feed so a quick run through-
I went to therapy during lockdown as we really weren't getting on at all and I wanted to learn to communicate better so I could get my point across to him about feeling under appreciated constantly. My therapist slowly.mafe me work out I'd been in an emotionally abusive relationship for many years and after a particularly horrible evening where he called me all the names under the sun in front of our children I asked him to leave. He slept on the sofa for 17 months (!) until one day I came home and from work and he had packed up half the house and walked out.
We share the kids 50/50 (DS13,DD10) and for the most part they have been OK. They are both very loyal to each of us.
But I really have issues with some of his parenting, always dropping the kids 10 mins later than agreed, lack of communication about any issues, feeding them takeaways most of the time, not doing or checking they've done homework so it's all down to me, no limit on screen time, very late nights.
I can't really say anything because he can do what he wants when it's his time and its not anything actually harmful. If I said anything I know he would twist it round and do the gaslighting so it's not worth the stress but it really irks me.
I guess I'm still so so angry at him for the way he treated me for years and now I live hand to mouth, have lost friends and have no trust in men at all whereas he earns loads more than me and has his supportive family friends near by.
Tips to get over the anger so I can co parent effectively? X