Hello,
Apologies in advance for the long post.
Long story short. Married ex in NY '18. I moved over with my then 8yr old daughter. DV &DA towards me and daughter. I came back to the UK 3 months later. We reconciled in '19, (he's a very good liar, even to my family) I fell pregnant and decided to try again only for the abuse to escalate and we moved back here 1 month later.
I gave birth to DS in the UK. Dad on bc. Dad denied paternity in US family court to avoid paying child maintenance. Dad also disappeared for 5 months after son was born.
2021 he starts a CA case against me through the hague convention. Initially it was in my favour. He lied about not having a criminal record only for the judge to order an FBI report and lo and behold..he has one.
3 day fact finding in Nov only for my sols to convince me to drop it the morning of. Since then...its been all in his favour. He's on a serious power trip where all orders ONLY take his wants and needs and mine never get heard.
I've changed solicitors as I felt let down. Had hrg on Monday. I was asking for the order to be amended as the last judge granted him unsupervised in the community despite having a history of dv towards my daughter and his other biological son. The last order was so one sided I couldn't comply and arranged for contact to happen supervised in a contact centre.
Now he's here again and he had son once for 4 hours in the community with a contact centre staff supervising. Son has come back unfed and is now with a viral infection. I'm stopping contact as son has medical condition due to allergies. His skin deteriorates if not cared for ie; I never let him play non stop to the point he's sweating alot because if left on his skin, like it was on Wed...it flares his eczema. I was asked to send all alergy info, food info which I did and dad still texts to say send food for son..if he can't cater to his single needs on his own, why have him alone?? I had asked to have someone who knows the child to be present rather than a centre staff....this was rejected. Everything I ask for in the best interest of my son gets rejected. Son is now sick, I have a gp letter stating he is sick. I don't have confidence to send him again and dad is here until the 23rd.
Contact is meant to be every 2 days, I've had to pull son out of nursery, I can't even accommodate the contact hours. They clash with the school run for my eldest and I don't have family around to help. I'm saying have 4 hours...he's insisting on 5...making me breach the order. Theer is no compromise from him.
It's as if he's bent on me breaching the order. The last draft order on tue I never even caught sight of. His sols sent it straight to the judge. I never agreed or saw it until after it was signed.
Where is the justice here??? The only one suffering is the child!!
As he lives in America or the Phillipines...we don't know...can residency be changed to him?? My lawyers tried that line with me and when I said no UK court would remove a UK citizen to go and stay with someone they've never spent less than 24 hours with...they backed down. Why do they do this???
I need to know where Istand. I need the order to be amended. This order will be breached time and time again if not.
Please help if anyone has been in a similar situation.
Thank you!!