Just the effort involved! Just ranting really. I still feel like I'm doing all the emotional parenting, having the talks, figuring stuff out, thinking about safety issues where the ex just says ds is old enough in secondary - and this emotional labour isn't really valued. Ex does the theme park stuff. Ex has so much more money than me as he kept his career and I was a sahm for a few years so my career tanked. Our time split is 60me/40him but I'm often expected to be flexible around his job. And he's picked the middle of the summer holiday to go away as he has the money and more fun holiday so ds up for this. We never went to court - partly as we couldn't afford it at time - so I'm never sure on how fair things were. And he's reluctant to discuss any parenting thing if he's busy with work. It sometimes feels like a worse deal - co-parenting with someone rather than living with someone who treats me with disdain, at least I had some money when with him. I try and maintain a cordial relationship but sometimes that feels like I compromise more apart than I did together. I'm thinking I need to firm up my boundaries but am feeling worn down at mo'.