Name changer as probably very outing info, but I am divorcing after a v long relationship and marriage. Two teenage DC. Ex was in a job for 20+years which he was 'made to resign' from for a relationship with a younger junior colleague.
As is the way, bits and pieces of new info trickle out over the weeks - she actually accused him of being predatory, he was suspended (but pretended to go to work for months) and he is out but she is still there.
Also, he has notebooks everywhere with notes from his investigation. I found one page that said that 'Possible' with a list of women's names - assuming that this is the fairly lengthy list of women at work who could have made an allegation (before he was told who). She wasn't even the first name on the list?
He is not telling me anything and is minimising/lying/stonewalling. These are serious allegations, plus what on earth re the list?
He expects us to be able to mediate, but honestly, who the heck is he? I don't believe a word he says. He is still living under the same roof and I am genuinely scared for my mental health the longer he is here.
Should I still do mediation even though he won't be honest, ever? Or just sack the idea and get a lawyer.... I can't afford it, especially given he has no income, but I feel unable to manage something like this alone.