I am a 50 year old man. I have been divorced for nearly three years. I have posted on Mumsnet before and some of the useful feedback I have been given is ‘work on boundaries’. I had dipped my toe into the online dating world but found it really difficult. I am now being single for a while as I found the process incredibly anxiety inducing. I am quite shy and hate crowded social situations. Online dating seemed like a solution but became something I dreaded.
I share my kids 50/50 and that is the most important thing to me. I have now established firm boundaries with my ex-wife and we co-parent well.
I have spent the last three months working on fitness, journaling, diet (all food freshly prepared, no sugar at all) mental health and improving myself. I have to say that everything has improved massively. My relationship with my kids (which was already good) has become utterly amazing. My job has got enjoyable again and I am receiving lots of praise for my efforts. Life feels amazing- and it has started with me actually setting firm boundaries with myself and non-negotiable activities that work for me. I was just wondering how long it has taken others to feel better and other things that could be good to do?