Hi all,
I'm going through a break up after an 8 year relationship (won't go into many details), and we have a 9 month old DS. He is in the process of buying me out on the mortgage and I have had my offer accepted on a house. We have tried and failed in the last 2 months to discuss arrangements for who has DS on what days. He has just started having seperation anxiety and wants to be near me 24/7,which I know won't last forever. My ex now thinks he can just go straight into 50/50 custody, and I've explained that DS is just 9 months old and that would be too much of a change for him. He's never had a night alone with the baby, and to go from that to expecting to have him half of the week in unreasonable in my opinion. I suggested maybe having him on his day off in the week and the weekends but still having the baby home to me for bed. Of course he hated that idea, so I said maybe one night a week and see how he goes. But now he's said he'll take me to court and I'm 'deluded' to think a judge won't grant him 50/50. We're going to be living a half hour drive away from eachother too, and I've said he can come and see him through the week etc I'm not by any means trying to stop him seeing DS at all. My ex has done nothing but put me down since having the baby and I can't deal with the extra stress from him as well as just starting back work full time and hopefully moving soon. It's a lot to deal with.
Sorry for the long post, just looking for advice here if anyone's gone to court for this or worked it out through mediation maybe. My DS is my whole world and I just want what's best for him.