Just got final order

[Clytemnestra21]

Actually came through a day or so ago but only just saw it. Feeling really sad about it all. I've actually been ok for a while but the sadness has hit me all over again. Sharing on here as feels too much of a moment not to share but no one I know in RL will be awake.

@Clytemnestra21 mine came through this morning too. Its been a bit of a long haul, despite being pretty straightforward, and even though I've spent the last 2+ years on my own and being the one that filed, I still had a good cry about it all this morning.
I think thats normal - it is sad, it wasn't what I ever thought would happen when we married, and for a little while I felt, all of a sudden, very 'alone'.
I hope your day has got better - time to move on now xx

Thanks @FionaBeee and big hugs to you. I filed too but it's been very sad and only become more sad as the time has passed (3 years)- I can't believe how severed the communications are between me and my ex. It's just been so many losses. Not just of the relationship but family and friends who are now divided, time with our children, hopes for the future and everything we'd worked for and built together. I'm ok and don't want to be married to him anymore, but don't think I'll ever get over it.

I don't think I'll ever get over it either, if it helps at all to know someone else 'gets it'.
I haven't spoken at all to my exH since Sept 22, and have no plans to. I have a very VERY small family - just me and my parents who retired overseas, and my adult daughter. My exH has a very large family, and for 25+ years they were mine too, but obviously aren't anymore. My daughter has contact though which is great.
Its big losses over so many things, and many things and the future that have to be re-imagined but tonight I shall have a lovely meal, bottle of wine and tomorrow will be another day xx

Hey @FionaBeee, I hope your evening and wine was good and relaxing. I had a FaceTime call with a couple of my best pals and feel much better about everything. X