Would you wait?

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My H is a teacher at the same place my youngest DC is at pre school. Therefore obviously he does all the drop off and picks up. In everything else I'm the primary carer.

In Sep 25 youngest DC will go to a different school (same as older DC) and I will do 100% of school pick ups and drop offs

H does v little for kids. If he gets 5050 then so be it but it won't be in kids best interests.

Would you wait for the younger to move to the primary school? I work from home so will do all childcare and drop offs long term.

He is likely to be a v angry man in the divorce and the thought of having to drive back and forth to his place of work to pick up DC is horrible and I don't want him to be able to present himself as doing 50% of childcare right now!

Sorry to hear you are going through this.

Why would 50/50 not be in the children's best interests?

I would start the process now. No way it will all be sorted by September.
Hopefully within a year? Maybe.

Best of luck.

@FatfunandADHD because H has MH problems he is refusing to address that makes him sleep during the day and behave erratically. I'd be open to him building up to 5050 but I do 99% for kids right now and so think changes should be gradual if possible

@BlackStrayCat DC isn't moving to Sep 25 so over a year away.

So, perfect. The court will see the next school year as the two siblings going to school together.

They will not look at "right now" (which will be likely after Christmas next year minimum)

Well, I filed a year ago and DD starts new school in Sep this year. This is what will count in court later this month, not where she is now.

I had a rushed DV case. If your is normal it is a couple of years normally. Do not delay.

I mean this Christmas/going into next year 2025.

Thank you @BlackStrayCat thats really helpful. I shall crack on with. Terrifying at it is. Sorry you experienced DV. Hope you're OK now

Yes, you crack on (as STBangryXH) tend to try and delay things! x

Fine (nearly), thank you. You will not feel terrified once you get in the driving seat. You will feel liberated.