Applying for Final Order as a Respondent

[Eric7]

Hi. I was wondering how long it takes for you to receive a Final Order as a respondent.

All financial matters between myself and my Ex have been settled and issued at the Court. Pension Sharing Order agreed.

However she demanded I pay her more money which she says she is owed, and until she receives that she will not apply for the final order.

So I decided to apply myself. It has been nearly 8 weeks since I applied. It is now with the local family court, but I cannot get any response from the Court or the Divorce line as to when my case will be heard.

I just want my final order, and it seems mad that if she applied for the Final order, she could have received it very quickly. Yet I apply as a respondent and it takes months.

Any help appreciated.

Thanks

Hi @Eric7 - I am in the same position. How long did it take in the end?

Hi. I had a court date 22nd October. Ex didn't even bother turning up. So just me and the Judge. Who looked a bit confused as to why we were even there.

Anyway it took 5 mins. I just said i'd like my final order please. He said he'd grant it. Had to ring HMCTS to get it finalised but I had it within a week.

Divorce is an awful experience but if one of the parties wants to make it a more difficult and a protracted experience ,the system allows bad people to get away with it with no repercussions.

Good luck with your situation. And life after divorce. Despite my ex doing everything to ruin my relationship with my children I have met the love of my life who I have been with for 2 years now. And despite all the bad mouthing the kids are doing well and see us as a new family.

Completely agree. My divorce took nearly 3 years in total because my OH caused issues all the way throughout.

Even though they were the applicant, because they chose not to be represented- genuinely had nothing to lose from being an asshole. In the end they were awarded much less than I had offered, although I asked for my costs back (£30k) and judge refused.

Anyway it's all done now, except for the absolute which I applied for two weeks ago. I know it's only the final bit of paper but I really want it:

Congrats on life post divorce. Sounds like you're really thriving!

Likewise. Good luck @GreenLeaf25 .

The only winners through divorce are lawyers. Me and my ex spent £50k between us. I had no choice as she wanted 75% of assets and spousal maintenance of 3000 a month till the kids are 18 (10 years away).

I have moved on and suspect it will take a few years to rebuild finances. I balance stressful work in London with being a good dad. She still refuses to look for a job and somehow survives on the 1200 a month I pay on CMS. But she is mortgage free London.

Anyway the worst bit is the purgatory until you get that final order. Life can be very great after divorce. And at the end of the day money gives you piece of mind. But it doesn't buy you love. Which is priceless.

God that sounds a bit w4nky!!!!!