Help.

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My ex, has a son who has just tried to comit suicide for the 3rd time. I share a 5 month old baby with my ex. He wants to take the baby out with his other son for the time he has with him. I'm really not comfortable with this. Would anyone agree that it's not a stable environment for my child to be in for those couple of hours. Do you think it would be fair for me to say I don't think it's a good idea?

No I think it would be nice for his son to spend time with his half sibling

Even though he was on the brink of being sectioned this morning? Me ex is meant to only have the baby at his mams or his grandma's on a Tuesday as well. This is what was agreed at mediation.

Also to add, my ex admitted to setting traps for people yesterday to deliberately try and catch people out. With work and friends.

Could he spend time with the baby and his older son at his mums or grandma's?
It would be a shame for the half siblings to not have time together and if there are two responsible adults around your baby should be fine. Step son's mental health should not present any danger to your baby but I can understand why you wouldn't want to risk your ex being out with both just in case his older son needed his full attention. What a sad situation.

The fact that he tried to commit suicide does not make him a threat to the baby. Your ex will be there to take care of the baby.

Ur drip feeding OP.
Is the half brother a danger to other people?

Your comments have changed the dynamic of the post. Are you saying your ex is the danger or his son?

I feel that my ex should prioritise his other son for a few days. I worry that the other son could just flip and take the wheel or kick off. My ex also said it was easier if he killed himself a few months ago. The visits are meant to be at the house of his mam or grandma. He's wanting to take him away for a couple of hours. My ex won't be able to contend with a son potentially threatening to take his life again and looking after a 5 month old baby. I'm not drip feeding there is a lot to this situation. But the plans were put in place by mediation he is just continuing to try to pick and choose and spit the dummy out when he doesn't get what he wants. I've spoken to harbour and they agree that it's not a stable environment for me to place a baby in. I have offered to take the baby to his grandma's for the 2 hours if he wishes to see him. This is a safe environment.

I think your offer of taking baby to grandmas is a good one. I'm not sure what's going on with baby's big brother but it seems like you think he might be at risk of violence as well as just feeling extremely sad?
If it's just that he's very sad, could you go round with baby to reassure yourself?
Or meet somewhere safe and neutral like a park?
I think it's reasonable to say that there needs to be two adults there - one to look after his big son who is on suicide watch and one to look after baby.

It's complicated but you've made some reasonable offers for access in safe environments.

Ok fine you can stick to that and keep quoting it lien a broken record.
If he chooses to bring his big son around too then at least there are other adult to be in charge of taking baby somewhere safe. Whats your relationship like with grandma could you have a chat with her to reassure yourself?