Now to split time with the kids...?

[thirtyseven37]

We are separating but living under the same roof. How do we split the children between us 50/50? STBEXH thinks this is how the split will end up (it won't) so I want to give it a trial. Would this include laundry and cooking too?

In theory it should include everything, so parent who's time it is does all the child related things like school runs, homework, houework and meals that occur on their time. In reality if he's previously been lazy and done the least he possibly can Id expect it to be more of the same. What sort of split is he wanting? I think it would be easier to assign chores like laundry to one or other parent if you're doing week on week off rather than something like 3,4,4,3.

My XH continued to do the same amount of child related things as he did before we split until he moved out. So very little and there was nothing I could do to change that. He still doesnt really parent on the 2 nights a week he has them. Everything's on me, which is hard. Hopefully your stbxh wont be so useless.

Can you go stay somewhere else for a week? That's the only way your ex will understand what 50/50 is going to be like.

Both of you need to do whatever is right for the children during this period. They don’t deserve to be put in the middle of any of your adult problems. What ever you work out with him needs to centre on making their lives as stress free as possible.