bit of a back story 2 years ago my ex of 9 years decided to kick me and our 2 children out on the streets with nothing. So how it happened i went to work that day with my two children I’m a hairdresser he wouldn’t ever look after our children never so when they wasn’t in school they would come to work with me. As he called it babysitting even though they are his children as well.
So the night before he kicked us out id finished work at 5 went shopping with the kids went home cooked a lovely dinner for him and the kids running him a bath ready, then proceeded to clean the house from top to bottom he was out on his bike. I’d just finished cleaning the middle floor as this house was 3 stories the kitchen and lounge top floor bedrooms middle floor and the entrance and garage bottom floor. And while cleaning got the girls then 6 and 8 to bed. I’d put the rubbish bag small on the top corner of the stairs leading to the bottom floor (anyone could walk past this) i mean you could sledge past it and not touch it well he came back in of his bike ride and as he walked up he grabbed the bag stomping about in his silly shoes waking the girls up. Throwing it down the rest of the stairs. And yelling abuse at me saying alsorts of things that I shouldn’t have put the bag there and him or the kids could fall down the stairs due to it i was confused and asked him is it difficult for him to just putting at the bottom of stairs after id made a 6 time run up and down the stairs with the food shopping, kids etc he said i was unreasonable. And i should close my hairdresser’s down and just stay at home and look after him.
anyway id recorded this and 3 weeks prior to this all the abuse he had given me on my phone without him knowing (obviously i can not use this in court apparently) including him telling me that I wasn’t allowed to sleep in the lounge where id been sleeping on the sofa for the past 3 months he told me i had to go sleep in the storage room / garage i said no as I wasn’t allowed to sleep in the bedroom,
anyway the next day everything normal i wake up get the girls dressed and breakfast very quiet ready to leave to go to work. He walks past i say morning being polite and see you later and same with the girls he says yes bye.
halfway through the day i have a very busy day at work and its bank holiday ( and living in Spain) i get a text to which i can not reply with him saying he’s sent me an email i have 5 more people booked in for treatments I can’t read a lengthy email so come 5pm when I’ve finished i then look at this email only for him to say he’s had the locks change on the house and me and the children are not welcome in our home. I’m shocked i have no money and my only bank card wouldn’t work we had no medication no toiletries no clothes this is bank holiday everything was closed and we live in a little village the nearest clothing outlet was 40 minute drive.
obviously i got the police involved but he would even let them in so we could get some clothes etc he just kept printing letters off and throwing them out of the window to the police saying i was unsafe and unstable etc the police was shocked at his behavior but couldn’t do anything. He sent me loads of other emails stating he will never have any contact with the girls because i involved the police
so fast forward 2 years on now he wants to see the girls and have contact with them my lawyer said its in the court order that we signed 1 year ago which he told my lawyer that he wont be having contact with them ever. But my lawyer said i should do.
He has completely blanked them even when they have waved at him from across the street when he’s been out on his bike when they have been in summer camp he’s not asked once about how they are or sent cards for birthday or Christmas.
i have had them in therapy and they are settled and happy and with the help of a great friend we was able to rent a house next door to her and her neighbors we have become very good friends, they have seen how well the girls have come on and how great they are. So please could someone please advice me on what to do.
If you need anymore information or questions on anything i have missed please ask away.
I just need advice thank you so so much