My 13 year old has essentially disowned me (selectively). So there are times where she will be minimally warm/ appreciative and approachable but a lot of times she displays ignorance, disgraceful name calling, and false accusations. Must add that she has been with her father and grandmother for an over 6 months now. And wow. The changes are undeniably heartbreaking, confusing and worrisome.
How do I navigate this situation as it's not just a disrespectful teen, it's a teen who is one of multiple children who she has 'chosen' to separate herself from and her mother.
I know alienation is thrown around a lot but without going into too much context, I have spoken with a mediator who feels that this is also apparent.
But in the day to day. I want her to know I am always here for her. I hope that she remembers the truth, (which she knew and lived and believed up until last summer when she was influenced a lot and spoilt rotten by them)
I want her to know that it's unacceptable to cross respect without her feeling like I'm being "everything they say I am"
The names I've been called match ones from them - word for word.
I've tried to express this to him but he says it's all me
How do I navigate this when it seems like she doesn't want anything to do with me? I want her to know I love her unconditionally and I'm always here. But when I said this - she accused me of being bipolar.
These are the words of her father and his mother previously.
How do I navigate my own self worth when it's constant rejection from my child who I adore and i miss so much. She has changed beyond belief.
How much of it is teen/ the hard separation/ the things they have lied about to her? It's all so hard to distinguish.