Please can someone point me in the right direction to get help or advice? I’ve spent all day trying to speak to Citizens Advice and Women’s Aid but to no avail
My narcissistic ex and I divorced months ago after an aggressive and ruinously expensive court case where he made ridiculous demands. The stress made me so ill I threw up before the hearing and was shaking (he was extremely emotionally abusive throughout the marriage)
and I have no resources to fall back on now as spent so much money defending myself. We haven’t spoken except via solicitors for 2 years.
I agreed to sell the house I bought and paid for with my own money and which is in my sole name as it was the family home so in scope. He has a flat he inherited so has no mortgage and he took half my pension. I was then made redundant - and I think this is partly due to mental health discrimination as I had to take time off with stress prior to the hearing. So I’ve had no luck lately
The house is almost on the market but when I had some decorating done we discovered damp and a roof leak and this put the process back some weeks (and cost me a fortune). I’ve documented this to the estate agent with frequent updates.
It is also a large, old house with 3 generations of junk in it and as a single mum who until recently worked full time it’s taken me a while to clear it for sale. I need to get a good price for it because I’m unemployed and in my 50s and would not get a mortgage and can’t list for sale this week as it’s full of rubble and ladders and paint as my decorator had to stand down while the walls dried out but is coming to finish this week. I need somewhere to live and to put up my kids in University holidays (they have never stayed at their dad’s house since he left us and he doesn’t speak to DS)
However my ex has been sending incredibly aggressive letters via his solicitor threatening to take me back to court and have me excluded from my home because of the delays. My estate agent has tried to explain I’m doing all I can to expedite matters (which I am as I just want this to be over) but says this behaviour from them is unprecedented and he’s never experienced another party being so aggressive and lacking in compassion.
I am on massive doses of antidepressants and worried about harming myself and can’t get the estate agent or my old solicitor to even call me back today. Please can anyone suggest a helpline that isn’t just permanently engaged as I need to talk to someone desperately. I really want to get the house sold as soon as possible and pay him off but I’m worried that even then he will continue to harass me on some pretext. I can’t ever see an end to it.