How to do it

[Greenfinger7777]

We have little to no communication- he really is impossible to talk to. I tried speaking to him about 2 weeks ago and everything was turned around on me. How did you actually tell him how unhappy you were?

How to do what? If you are convinced you want a divorce you don't actually have to get him to listen to you, you just file for divorce OP.
Is that what's happening?

He’s been on the sofa for 5 weeks. I think he’s convinced if he slowly starts acting normal everything will be fine but it’s not. I cannot keep living like this but don’t know how to tell him. I did try about 2 weeks ago but it was all turned back on me.

I’m in the same position Op. He is never at fault, only me. He shouts, swears and clenches his fists in a fit of anger. He’s yet to lift his hands to me but we have 2 young children and I can’t get him out the house.

Well if he's not listening when you try to tell him what's wrong, doesn't that tell you everything you need to know?

Why invest time searching for the right way to tell him.

He's not listening. However you tell him. He doesn't give a shit.

For both of you - you don't need the other parties consent to divorce. You can just do it online. The papers will be posted to him.

I said I was unhappy and wanted to go to relationship counselling (I didn’t really, I knew I wanted a divorce).

He said no, I replied that it was relationship counselling or divorce.

He replied “Fuck off and get your divorce”.

Even if yours says yes to relationship counselling, it can often be a way to get your voice heard. Counselling can be the means to ending a marriage.