When did you know it was time?

[dollandstep]

Just that really.

I've had thoughts of divorce for a long time now and fantasise about what my life might be like just DC and I, but I still don't feel I'm anywhere near to going through with it or even making that decision for real.

If you're divorced or separated, when did you know it was time to go ahead? If it crept up on you over time, what pushed you to do it in the end?

I have had the same thoughts for a few years. It wasn't time and then my ex ( separated) and I had a massive row. I knew that was my chance to escape. That was 5 months ago. Still living in the same house but I know 100% it was the right time.
It's weird, you just know. However, don't put it off. It is crap and shite but think of why you want it and the life you want.
That will keep you strong.
Otherwise, try to make it work. If that doesn't happen you know you have tried and it's time to call it a day

Thanks for this. I hope you're doing OK with it. I don't know. I go through months where I think things aren't great, but equally they aren't terrible, but I always come back to this thought.

I just increasingly love the idea of my own space, everything done my way and to be honest, I think I'd be a better parent alone.

How did you get your ex to leave if you don’t mind me asking?

I read a book called ‘Too good to leave, too bad to say’

It’s very good and looks at your long term happiness. I was about a third of the way through when I knew it was over.