Divorce lawyer experienced in covert narcissism

[Pickleperkins]

Hi! Does anyone have a good divorce lawyer they could recommend? I need someone who has alot experience of dealing with covert narcissists please. Ideally in the Oxfordshire/Bucks area. Thank you.

Hi Pickle, I hope your divorce went through smoothly and favourably for you. If you found a decent lawyer would you mind sharing their details ? Soon to be in the same rocky boat ! Thanks x

I suggest you ditch the label, even with a lawyer, as it’s open to all sorts of misunderstanding and judgments. Instead, describe their behaviour now with tangible examples and, importantly, say how you think they’ll act during divorce proceeding; then ask what they would do to mitigate against this. By asking lots of probing, specific questions of several prospective lawyers in the free 30 mins, their answers will tell you all you need to know about whether they understand and are skilled at dealing with your STBEXH. I got a very wide range of answers which was most illuminating and knew from that who understood and who was skilled in that character type.

Also, I only spoke to Head of family division who were signed up to the Resolution group (committed to a code of practice that puts the needs for the family first). I’m sure there are lots of good lawyers who aren’t Heads of Family and members of Resolution but it gave me some additional reassurance and their searchable database helped me narrow the search. Good luck.

Hi @EmilyP79 first of all, I’m so sorry to hear that you are in this position. It’s tough and lonely and can feel overwhelming. So to update in my situation…. I haven’t divorced my husband. But I HAVE discovered that what I thought was covert narcissism, was in fact ASD.

Apparently a lot of be behaviours of someone on the autistic spectrum mirror those of someone with narcissism - the lack of empathy; the inability to read others reactions well; the lack of emotional regulation; the monotone voice; the list goes on….

For me (for now at least), it has provided me with a better level of understanding about my DHs behaviour. Does it make everything better - hell no; but the knowledge that there isn’t malicious intent behind his behaviour helps. A lot.

Anyway, to answer your question, I did find a really good lawyer. She was recommended by a friend who also went though a tough divorce and used her. Her name is Sarah Harding and she is at SMB (Simon Muirhead Burton).

i honestly think that she is the perfect combination of compassionate and feisty. A good person to have in your corner. She also offers initial chats and xonsulations…. I had a chat with her for 2 hours for about £400 and it helped enormously.

Her contact details are here:

Sarah Harding
Partner

tel:+44(0)20 3206 2700 +44(0)20 3206 2700 (Reception)

87-91 Newman Street
London W1T 3EY
www.smb.london

I hope you are okay and that you can get the advice and support you need.

All the best. .

Definitely don't label in court unless official diagnosis has been given. My ex called me a narcissist, was told not to by the judge, continued... closing summary judge commented specifically on this.