CanIinterestyouinasarcasticcomment ·
22/04/2024 13:59
Separating from partner of 13 years, I have 2 teenage girls (19 & 16), no children together, not married, mortgaged property in joint names.
He originally wanted to buy me out, but as the house is in the middle of a huge renovation he thought it would be valued with no equity, turns out it has 60k, I've asked for 30k and I'll move into rental as soon as agreed, he has refused.
He claims to have appointed a solicitor to force the sale (I'm not refusing) and he wants to factor in a family car that was bought using my car as deposit, and then he financed it, finance was cleared 3 years ago, I have been main policy holder, and driver every single day from purchase (he has his own car), as well as the gifted deposit from his step dad, which was given in both our names, with no caveats, no rights to the property, and not held in any trust, I have mortgage paperwork signed by his step dad to prove this.
The main issue is us living together still, he has never respected the girls privacy and has been known to take photos of their bedrooms to show to friends/relatives proving their rooms are messy, I have asked him to keep out, even more so now we are not in a relationship. But he continues to go in, he has taken their TV remotes and fire sticks (as he paid for them) and he has also been in and taken my apple watch (assuming to read my messages). He has taken photos of the girls, and edited them adding devils horns stating they're moody.
I am sleeping in bed with one of the girls, whilst he has remained in the master bedroom. He agreed to be out of the house 6am - 10pm, but isn't sticking to it, he comes home on the days that the youngest is home alone on study leave, which makes her very nervous, as there is no relationship there, they do not speak. The girls finish college before I get home from work, and don't want to be in the house in case he comes back.
We have suffered years of emotional abuse, mainly me, but the girls have been affected, it has taken me a year of counselling and lots of support to get to this point. I cannot move into rental until I have some money behind me, and it's hard finding somewhere for the 3 of us, plus the cat. He has other places he could stay, 2 family members have spare rooms with bathrooms etc.
Do I have any right to ask him to leave? The state of the house means it could take 12 months or more to sell, we cannot live like this for much longer.