Heart ache

[alittlelostinlife]

My husband moved out 5 months ago. We have been married 10 years!

I was absolutely devastated and didn't expect it to happen, no hints, conversations to lead up or anything! 5 months on and I am still devastated!

Bit of back story, apparently he has been falling out of love with me for the last 5 years and has come to terms with separation and doesn't think he will change his mind.
I have said I want to fight for our marriage and family! I still am very much in love with him and the separation has made it clear to me!

He moved in with his parents and comes to the family home whenever he isn't at work. We still kiss and cuddle as I still love him and want to give our marriage a shot. But he is now moving an hour and a half away to stay at his friend's house to give us space as he feels it may help the healing process! This is killing me!!!!

I don't know what to do! I very much want my husband back but feel I'm setting myself up for more heart ache!

Any advice on what people did to save their marriages (his not interested in cousnselling, I'm on the waiting list for me)

Any advice on anything really. I'm feeling a little lost, lonely and confused with life. He really is the love of my life! I don't know how to move on if it comes to it!

There are no other people involved! No affair or cheating!

If I wrote that post, what would you tell me?

You would tell me that it’s clear he has fallen out of love with you and that he has clearly departed the relationship emotionally and has physically moved out. He has had time to deal with this and I haven’t. So it’s normal to feel this devastated.

You would also tell me to stop engaging in any form of intimacy when he is no longer in love and has left the home.

The marriage is over. 10 years is a long time and it’s going to take a long time to get over. However, there is no love from his side and he doesn’t want to be married.

Put a barrier up and limit contact with him, it’s clearly putting you in further agony thinking there’s still a chance. There isn’t I’m afraid. Take control and stop letting him walk all over you. Im sorry to sound harsh, but you need a hard dose of reality. Good luck

You can’t save it if he doesn’t want it to be saved

it sounds kind he left ( in his head) a long time ago. Let him go

put done boundaries in place. He doesn’t just come and go . You don’t kiss and cuddle. Start divorce. The back control and move on with your life rather than letting him string you a long