We have been separated for a year now after his affair. Affair was a year long, no children. We tried to make it work, but he made further awful decisions. He has spent the last 12 months desperately trying to make me change my mind.
Hes still in the house and I’m with family. House has just sold. I found out he’s been seeing someone since Oct time (whilst still persuing me), he has been so brazen, all over his social media, I feel like iv been cheated on all over again, weeks after he was still trying to get me to change my mind. She’s been staying in our house too, it’s just making me so angry after everything.
I have instructed a solicitor and plan to file for divorce. My question is, telling him first, what do I do?? We haven’t spoken since maybe Aug, iv just found it too painful and it takes me steps back each time.
Solicitor said it’s up to me whether I tell him I have filed or just let her send the correspondence. I don’t know what to say or how to say it. HE had the affair, he has the new GF as good as living there, but I’m still so sad about it all, desperately so.
do I email him, do I speak to him, do I do neither. I find speaking too upsetting and sad, but I don’t know about an email either? He’s moved on, I need to gain something back for me. I just don’t know what to do. He must be expecting this too a point or may be close to this himself??
any thoughts, under the circumstances, greatly appreciated xx
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Informing husband of divorce
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Letsdocoffee · 17/04/2024 22:09
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18/04/2024 06:36
Snuppeline · 17/04/2024 22:43
Post it all over your social media, that’s how he updates the world on his life no? Okay, fun as that may be for a second take the high road and let the solicitor handle the communication.
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