Need advice please! Mediator pressuring me

[makrout]

Hi all.

I received an email from the mediator asking me to arrange a MIAM session. I replied to inform her that 2 months ago, I applied and paid to attend a hearing at the family court regarding a delay to the final order until finances are agreed and would like to wait until after the hearing.

She replied back saying I should book a MIAM now regardless because my husband is very anxious to know whether we can go ahead with mediation. I said I'm 100% for giving mediation a try but would like just a little more time. She emailed again and twice saying MIAM will not affect hearing and went on to propose a date and time next next week. I can't make the session as my DD has a doctor's appointment.

I'm certain we will receive guidance from the judge at the hearing which is just a few weeks away. Ex and I may be able to come to an agreement right there and then to sell the FH so avoiding the expense of mediation and taking things to court for further negotiations.

Really stuck and not sure what to do. It sounds like she's not willing to wait a couple of weeks.

As per reply on other thread, usually you’d mediate before going to court and only follow court route if mediation failed.

odd to do other way round

why are you stalling mediation?

Courts normally want you to do meditation first. Meditation is not binding but it shows willingness (which judges like). Any particular reason why you are doing this backwards?

EDIT - is the meditation to discuss finances or custody/visitation of DD, or both?

I thought the only reason a court would be favourable to not having done mediation is when there's abuse involved?

I applied for a stay on proceedings/delay on final order because the FH is in my STBX's sole name. Once divorce is granted, my home rights end and he could sell and take all proceeds without me knowing. He has already moved to his home country.

Not stalling as such. I just don't want to pay for mediation when we're to speak to a judge very soon.

Applied to court for a stay on proceedings until financial settlement is signed off.
Ex refused to share form e so we couldn't move forward with amicable negotiations. I believe his plan was to apply for a final order, sell FH, take all proceeds and never return to the UK.

Mediation for finances. He's not interested in DD.