STBEH is being an arse. Lots of unacceptable behaviour which is confusing as it delays things when he says he wants things sorted ASAP.
MIL said I'll always be family and has offered to give me any money I need. I have thanked her but said I don't feel comfortable and won't be taking any money. Once I have asked to borrow money for a workman if I needed them and she immediately agreed but I haven't needed to use anyone as of yet. I would pay her back ASAP.
I hold her partly responsible for her H behaviour and therefore the end of our marriage and as he's living there I've decided not to visit if he's there. I have valid reasons for not seeing him. I know it's on him. He could have made different choices and not just stuck to what he was brought up as/with.
I am struggling with being as friendly as I was before, she doesn't know, I'm doing a good job, but I wondered how people managed this kind of situation? At some point this year I'll be moving away and will be five hours away instead of less than 30 minutes.