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Divorce/separation

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Initial 30 minute chat with solicitor what to achieve?

11 replies

WindUpBird · 02/04/2024 16:06

I’ve had a scroll through past threads but can’t quite find the answers.

  1. how do I choose a solicitor - just a local ‘family law’ firm? Do they all offer the free 30 minute chat without any obligation? Is that a ‘standard’?
  2. what should I hope to get out of the meeting? I’ll bring all details of amounts in bank accounts etc.
realistically we won’t have money to pay for any more legal advise/support so I hope it’s possible to do this ourselves many thanks everyone, never thought I’d be in this position and it’s difficult to know where to start.
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theclimb · 02/04/2024 16:56

In my initial free consultation the solicitor asked about the circumstances of why I wanted to divorce - then he went through the process and then advised me which bits I could do myself to save money. I gave him a very high level run down of our finances and what I wanted to walk away with and we discussed whether I was too high/too low - I did the D81 form myself - ex husband then signed it - he wasn't interested in putting any effort into the paperwork. The solicitor wrote the consent order and that was the only bit I had to pay for

PermanentIyExhaustedPigeon · 02/04/2024 16:59

My experience of the "free 30 minutes" thing (and I've done it 3 times over completely different things) is that you don't get any tailored advice. You get given some very general advice and told that you need to pay for an appointment to get anything specific to your circumstances.

karriecreamer · 02/04/2024 17:01

30 minutes isn't enough time for any specific advice, nor is it intended to be.

It's more of a "getting to know you" meeting and for signposting etc. You may get some generic advice, but you're really not going to get much in just half an hour.

Jonathan70 · 02/04/2024 17:12

I paid about £200/300 for a first consultation and ran through the details of my separation. They asked lots of questions re length of marriage, date of separation, current circumstances, my earnings, pension etc, what I knew of ex’s position. They were able to give a range in terms of the % of equity I could receive out of the house - best case/worst case scenario. They advised mediation and that they would draw up the consent order, if I wished them to once we had come to an agreement. The situation was straightforward in that there was only one main asset - the house.
I just googled family lawyers in my area and read the reviews. It was worth it to know that my ex’s claim was unfounded. She had been hearing stories from divorced friends with very very high earning ex husbands and assumed the same applied to us even though our circumstances were totally different.

Imgoingtobefree · 02/04/2024 17:28

I agree with the above, although I struck lucky with mine.

There can be so many variables in a divorce that for someone to give relevant advice could be difficult. It’s also when the solicitor explains their billing rates and practices.

My situation was very simple. Married a very long time, husband already receiving state pension and a private pension. No dependent children, owned our own house outright. I had no private pension and was only due a state pension. The solicitor felt confident enough to confirm that divorce would essentially be 50/50 of assets and I could claim 50% of his pension.

This has turned out to be correct.

I spoke to two different solicitors. The first gave me 20 mins, the second (the one I went with) gave me 40 mins. You could I suppose try a few and see if you glean enough information that way. I’m not sure every solicitor gives a free initial consultation, so you’ll have to check.

I went online and looked at the websites of the local solicitors. I checked out the profiles of all the solicitors. I went with a firm that wasn’t that big and chose a solicitor that specialised in family law (divorce) and was a partner. She also had over 20 years experience.

She was probably more expensive, but was worth it. A divorce is one of the few times when you can’t afford not to pay for advice.

Look up wikivorce first, to give you an idea of the general process and terms. It can answer the simple stuff so you don’t waste time asking the solicitor really basic questions.

WindUpBird · 03/04/2024 00:06

Thanks so much, everyone, you’ve all been really helpful.
I phoned round as many local family law firms as I could this afternoon and not one actually offers the free 30 minutes, I’ll try a few more tomorrow. One offered 45 minutes for £100 so that may be worth it if I go in with detailed finances, as you said@Jonathan70 . I don’t know his pension details so I guess it’s worth finding out before the meeting?
Thanks @Imgoingtobefree I hadn’t heard of wikivorce - though I’m slightly scared at your recommendation that it’s worth spending money on advice during a divorce. If he is agreeable to splitting everything 50/50, I’m hoping the process will be straightforward. Is that naive and unrealistic?

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Itsrainingloadshere · 03/04/2024 00:23

Pension information can take quite a while to obtain from the provider. Basic info such as what type of pension will be available however a value of it, known as CETV, can take months to obtain. You will both need these in order to negotiate finances as pensions can be a very valuable asset so don’t agree to anything without this info being available.

Jonathan70 · 03/04/2024 10:00

It is important to get the pension info before an actual agreement is made - but the solicitor may still be able to tell you, for example, that a 50/50 split is most likely which includes both pensions. Once the value of the pension is known, you might then be able to negotiate that you keep more equity and he keep his pension, or whatever scenario is best for both of you. If you’ve got any details re the pension, take them with you.
There are posters on here who have divorced without spending too much, eg have got an idea of where they stand from a solicitor and have used on online service to draw up a financial agreement. I think it becomes more difficult if the agreement is weighted heavily in one person’s favour and is complicated - perhaps with more than one property, inheritances, etc. If it’s fairly straightforward it seems do-able but it’s important that you don’t lose out because you haven’t either read up (use the AdviceNow Guides) or taken a small amount of advice about your situation. Best wishes.

CuppaTea23 · 04/04/2024 23:49

I'm going to try using amicable.io as I like the idea of no solicitors and the fixed fee packages, their trust pilot reviews are great. Be interesting to hear if anyone else has tried that path?

AnotherEmma · 05/04/2024 00:01

The guides here are free, detailed and helpful, so do read through before you see a solicitor:
https://www.advicenow.org.uk/divorce-and-separation

Your local citizens advice might know of local law clinics offering free or low cost advice, it's worth contacting them to ask. Also depending on your location, solicitors elsewhere might be cheaper, if you are willing to do it remotely via video or phone call.

I haven't used this service myself but I think it looks quite good:
https://www.advicenow.org.uk/know-hows/getting-affordable-advice-family-solicitor-advicenow

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