Advice needed childcare/divorce

[kalsgirl237]

Hi guys so I left my husband a few months back, we have a boy and another baby on the way. I left him because I found out he was seeing escorts and also because he's previously been very abusive towards me. I haven't reported that to the police however he has he been over a few times (I'm staying with my parents) and he caused havoc to which I called the police. No action was taken. I'm due any day now with my second baby and have been really stressed. My husband and his family take my boy every day - I work most days so they watch him when I'm at work and on the days I'm off they take him too and return him back to me at 10/11pm at night. Not sure how to set boundaries as no one is respecting the fact I need him home early andnoressurise me to let him go with them though my son does run off whenever they come to pick him. I'm so stressed out and I know it's just a tactic to hurt me and get me back there but it's really upsetting me now as I have no time whatsoever with him apart from an occasional Saturday and nights only. He's dropped off late which gives me very little time to spend with him as he's exhausted by then. Please advise as I don't have the funds to go through court yet

[Asilisa76]

Check as you may be entitled to legal aid - you have contacted the police so you have evidence of alleged abusive behaviour. Contact women's aid who can help advise you. You need some boundaries and parameters around arrangements. You will also need to factor in your new baby. Don't try and do this on your own. This is why the family courts exist.

[Wibblywobblylikejelly]

Stop handing him over to them.

[Froniga]

Please be very careful regarding your son spending all this time with your soon to be ex husband and his family. If/when it goes to Court, which it will, ex could claim to be main child care provider. He could quite possibly be awarded custody.
My advice - start limiting the time he and his family spend with your son. Maybe they could see him with you present. You really don’t know what goes on when your son is with them. You’d be quite within your rights to start limiting the visits due to the late returns etc.
Take care