Tips for surviving divorce?

[EasterLegz]

I haven't started the process yet. I have a date/month to tell DH and I have 100% determination to see it through.

Last night he was being distant & mean - and I drank 3 large glasses of wine while watching telly. This morning I feel OK, but sluggish and overwhelmed with kids, H being an arse, the thought of the next 6 months - and it's made me think perhaps I need to stop drinking if I'm going to get through this with a clear head.

I don't do any exercise and have neglected my body/health for years as work and family have taken priority.

Any tips for surviving divorce? Any little or big things that made a difference?

H is going to make it as painful as possible, my children are very young, and my job is demanding. I feel scared at the thought of it all. Trying to prep myself like an athlete!

I am in the thick of it now & have more or less stopped drinking (& no drinking around him) so I have a clear head. Trying to go to the gym a lot & focus on my child. Staying in touch with friends & family; I feel like I have my allies or my team. Getting some time outdoors even if it’s just standing around a freezing playground. Now we are not spending evenings together (but it’s hard to go out), I am mostly reading in the evenings & feel like I have a separate intellectual/emotional life because I am reading all these great books. I might start a box set on my own too, again to have a sense of a separate life. I am trying to look after myself in general too; I have no time but putting on moisturiser sometimes feels like putting on war paint. And just trying to really focus on my child & be present with him (which helps me forget a bit what’s going on.)

As hard as it will be for you, try to keep lines of communication open with 'D'H.

Co-parenting is much easier for everyone if you can be civil and kind to each other.