I have been with my husband for 12 years and married for 10 years. I move my whole life to live with him in NYC. We have a 7-year-old daughter. Just one day before when me and our daughter were supposed to fly home to see my family, my husband sat me down to tell me he was not happy and wanted a divorce. Out of the blue. He said he hasn't been happy for the last 5 years. But he tried to make it work because our daughter was only 2 years old at the time. I had no idea that we were having marriage problems. He blamed me for the miscarriage that because I flew home to see my family that's why I lost the baby and I said is all the stress you put on me and how controlling he can be. After I lost our baby. I was so unhappy that I ask for a divorce. He beg me to stay and said we have a daughter together so I try and we had work through our problems. A year after when I couldn't get pregnant again. We try IVF for 4 years. I recently got a transfer in December hoping that I would be pregnant but then I lost the baby again it has been so hard on me. When I finally told him that I lost the baby and how sad I was. He didn't said anything. I just thought maybe is better not to talk about it. Then all of a suddenly he said he's not happy and wanted a divorce. He blamed me for not working hard on our side business ( which we have a online business ) this business was supposed to be a fun business not an income. He has his own business and he focus on that. As we spit up our responsibilities. I take cared of the household and kids while he take cared of the financial part. I wake up 6am to get our daughter ready for school then I head home to work on our side business. By the time I look at the clock is time to pick her up and is more academic ( Kumon and etc. ) all he does is work while everything else at home is taking cared of. I'm a full time mom, nanny and a maid. And still work on our online business. He complained I'm lazy don't work hard enough. After he told me then he call our daughter out of the room to tell her we are getting a divorce and saying like mommy will probably talk bad about me but know that I loved you. She start crying and I was devastated. Then he took off and hasn't come home for 2 days and he announced it to his work that he's getting a divorce and said he try for 5 years and I haven't change at all. Which I didn't even know what I need to change about. Is not like we have marriage problems and I am aware about it and we try and it didn't work. But this was so unexpected for him to out of nowhere and tells me all this thing that I'm doing wrong and basically saying he's done with us. I feel so betrayed, lost lonely I'm really sad. I have made friends at his work somewhere very close after they heard about it no one dared to contact me as they probably worried of losing their jobs. Right now I'm trying to process and accept what it is but it's so hard.
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