Just venting

[Verysad1978]

Ex makes everything so difficult. He’s so angry. Even though split down to him.

Any arrangements have to be initiated and followed up by me. And he doesn’t respond to texts about logistics for hours sometimes not at all. So I don’t know when kids will be brought back or whether I’m collecting or whether they’ll have had dinner.

I know there’s no solution. Just venting. That said if anyone has any tips I’ll take them

My ex was the same, awkward for the sake of it and to mess me around so I could never plan anything. It was all about control as he has many NPD tendencies.
I eventually drew up a parenting plan to cover everything to ensure it was all documented, which after mediation he eventually signed and copy was sent to both our solicitors. Ours covers holidays, access days, drop off and pick up times, who does the handovers (I do all of them so I feel in control now), Christmas, birthday arrangements etc. this reduces any unnecessary contact between us.

Yeah. I rang him and had him shouting down phone at me. Without going into it I can’t explain the anger and the irrationality and the nastiness. It’s properly bizarre.

Try communicating through text/imessage/email/whatsapp instead ?
at least there’s a record of communications between you then