I have name changed as I don’t want this linked to my other posts.
My husband has just told me he’s leaving me, hasn’t been happy for years, loves me but is not IN love with me.
I had no idea he was so unhappy. I feel betrayed that he never talked this through with me so we could try and make it work.
Been together 12 years, married nearly 7.
I have two kids, 17 and 20, from a previous relationship, they don’t see their bio father.
I’m devastated. He’s honestly the kindest, most loving person I’ve ever known and I love him very much.
He’s obviously been thinking about this for a while as he’s told me that it’s better to spilt assets on separation rather than on divorce and that divorce can all be done online now without a court etc. I had no idea about any of it.
We don’t own our home, we rent and I wouldn’t be able to afford the rent on my own (older DC at uni, younger DC doing A levels) the furniture is all ours.
He has a large amount of savings as we’ve been saving a house deposit. I have a small amount of savings. He earns around 5 times more than me that’s why he has so much more.
He says we would just spilt the savings on half and then if I keep the car, the furniture etc he would take the money for that off my half, does that make sense and is that right?
My head is spinning and I can’t think straight
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In shock and confused
Imgoingoutforawhile · 09/03/2024 22:55
Imgoingoutforawhile · 09/03/2024 23:23
Pension hasn’t been mentioned, why would I be entitled to any of that? We are only in our 40s so don’t get pension yet?
EditedImgoingoutforawhile · 09/03/2024 23:23
Pension hasn’t been mentioned, why would I be entitled to any of that? We are only in our 40s so don’t get pension yet?
EditedCremeEggOverload · 10/03/2024 08:07
In my 17 y on MN, it's almost unheard of for a man to break a relationship or marriage unless there is someone else.
Online women or female colleagues. All likely.
I'm sorry this is happening but take the time to educate yourself on all things financial/divorce. Understand about pension pots. And monitor all joint assets and accounts.
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Doyoumind · 09/03/2024 23:38
He's clearly a lot more clued up on the financial side of divorce than you and it sounds like he's trying to hurry things through so you don't get what you're entitled to. You definitely need legal advice.
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