Advice needed on Separation

[Tinkerbell6]

Hi, I have been married nearly 6 years and been together with my partner for just over 10. We live together in a bought house and have a son who’s 8. I am really unhappy and despite me speaking to him to explain my feelings about different things he always says things will change. Things will get better and this will last a few days or a week or so and then things go back to normal. I don’t know who to reach out to to speak to or what to do. I have bad anxiety so that’s stopping me contacting anyone despite me knowing it’s what I need to do. I understand that marriage does wind down and you do get stuck in a routine I guess but like we never do anything together and we haven’t slept in the same bed for over a year. I live in Scotland and feel so lonely that I have no one to talk to.
also I feel so guilty if we did split that I would be letting my family down and his family, I would be bringing this unhappiness into others. But I ain’t happy myself anymore. I need advice from those who have experienced similar and can offer some words. Thank you for reading x

I’m in a similar boat OP. Except I’ve been married less than a year.

Been together 10 years, married for 6 months. It seems like a lot has changed. we have nothing in common, he’s so massively introverted which makes it so much harder. We don’t have the same sense of humour anymore. We don’t do anything together. The only conversation we have are about the kids, the house and money. He never asks me anything about myself.. and I think the final straw for me recently is that I had to buy my own mother’s day gift from the kids because he leaves everything until the night before and half the time I fully expect not to get anything at all because he’s left it so late.

I generally just feel like I’m not being treated equally in our relationship and it’s really
jot how I want to continue. We never used to fight or argue at all. We would always talk out our differences but now it seems like rather than talking and compromising, im being met with constant blame on me, im the issue, im the problem. It’s seriously draining. I worry for our kids now though. And I worry about how I’ll cope financially. Im Not on the mortgage or anything so im a little scared to leave and not be able to afford it. I work but my salary isn’t great, especially with two kids in tow.

im also really embarrassed that we got married 6 months ago and now I feel this way.