Too scared to declare his assets

[Tomyam9876]

Hi everyone,

Long story but basically we've had the first financial hearing and we're now at the stage of questionairres of Form E.

I know there are assets from his country he hasn't declared but I'm too scared to raise it. My solicitor has advised to declare everything I know he has so everything is as accurate as possible however her has always made me very fearful regarding his money and what he deems his families money.

It's been a 15 year abusive relationship and 4 children with financial abuse playing a part. I don't want to leave my kids without (they live with me full time). He's done nothing but dispute child maintenance and I expect that to continue so I'm well aware I need to do this but I'm too scared of his retaliation.

I have until Monday to complete and send to my solicitor and every time I try and do it I can't. I'm scared his wealthy family will think I'm 'after their money', I'm scared he'll see red and do something stupid, I'm scared he'll use the kids to punish me and more.

He's already acting as victim to everyone, this will give him more fuel. There's a criminal case running alongside and I believe if I get a good settlement he'll say all of what's happened has been lies and I just wanted his money.

What are peoples opinions on this??

Is there a chance he returns to his country and or if the reach of cms? I think you need to get all you can from the start.

There's a chance he can go back to his country once his bail conditions are lifted and/or be convicted for the assault if it goes to trial.

I think this man has instilled fear into
you.

Try to reach out for support in real life but by god I’d be going for every darn penny!!!

And if he does leave the country then it’s likely he will be arrested upon his return

It doesn’t matter what his family think about you, their bitterness is their problem not yours.

ATM he is on bail for assault. I’m sure a condition is that he stays away from you. If he has any rationality he won’t do anything to add to his criminal problems. But there’s no guarantee of this. You will need to take steps to protect yourself and be prepared to report any contact from him or his family or any other flying monkeys.

Please note you are not disclosing anything. He is required to do his own disclosure. All you will do is challenge what he has said and presumably you have tangible evidence of assets abroad. If this is well known he will be conscious this is going to happen.

Whilst your solicitor is correct to say you should challenge his statement, I would ask how much evidence do you have that these assets exist and are in his name. Sometimes it is easy to show overseas assets and sometimes it isn’t.

Thank you for the rational responses. Yes he has done a good job of instilling fear. I really need to work on seeing whose problem it is to deal with.

This is the first time he's been in any trouble with the police, he's in a professional role and very concerned about what this is doing to his reputation. (Hopefully that will reduce the risk of not doing anything that would further incriminate him). However he is very irrational.

He has disclosed some overseas shares but not property he is named on. I don't have evidence other than the address (I've been there) and what he's always told me though I assume if it's a property it will be relatively easy to confirm.

The way he used to act when talking about his 'family's money' has me visualising him throwing fireballs at the house if he thinks it's threatened.

I'm going to have to bite the bullet one way or another tomorrow anyway.