Co-parenting with a sex addict

[koochykoo86]

Hi, please go easy on me here. I'm completely at the end of my tether.

Been in a relationship for 8 years and have one child together who just turned 7.

In June I found out he had been having an affair with a work colleague for a year. We were done and over at that point but I lost my job due to being signed off with stress. So I've been living with him whilst I get back on my feet financially. Me and my little girl are due to move out soon.

I've recently discovered that it wasn't just the affair. This man has problems. Paying for webcams, watching pornography at home while our child is around and this weekend I discovered he's on a sex/swingers website looking for 'opportunities'. Dogging, meeting strangers, swinging etc. hundreds of pictures of him on there.

I am severely concerned about co-parenting with him. If he can do this when we are all under the same roof then what will go on when I'm gone and he has our child?

If I take my daughters access to her dad away she will be heartbroken. I'm completely lost. Has anyone been through something similar please and what did you do? Thank you

Is he solely responsible for the child and neglecting her while he watches porn? Or has he watched it in privacy when she’s gone to bed?
Has he said he has an addiction issue?

Yes when he's solely responsible and not when she is in bed. I no longer see my friends or go out alone because I don't trust him. He at one time admitted to having a problem and went to 3 therapy sessions. Then stopped going because it was too expensive. Now when I try to broach the subject he plays stupid as if what he does and to the level he does it is normal. Doesn't think he needs help. I've told him il be seeking legal advice because of my concerns but he just starts shouting at me and that's the end of the convo. I can't converse with him. I wouldn't care on his part because he's had since June to address it so we could share custody but I'm thinking of how much it would upset my child if she can't see her dad. I don't want that for her but I have to protect her.

Just to clarify did he view it privately ?

If not, is this something you can establish if you weren’t there?

How do you want to handle this going forward? Will you just refuse access even if he gets a court order. What will you do to take away your daughter’s access?