How do you deal with extremely nosy people /colleagues when you go through separation?
I live in a tiny place, where everyone knows everything and I have a few colleagues at work who know that I am now a single mum but they ask sly questions to get it "straight from the horses mouth". I absolutely hate this. I would rather they came straight out and said I heard you and ... split!
Instead its targeted questions. Similarly my boss, who has several friends in common, told me that he overheard my child talking about being separated and then checked in on me - cause he had to. This is about 4 months post separation. I said to him "I am sure you were well aware of this 4 months ago" and he said yes - his pals work in same company as my ex.
It's not a secret but with these people, who I am not close to, I think it's quite rude and they are also known as the gossipers! I don't see why I should give them the satisfaction of confirmation. They are very negative people and i think as someone who is coming to terms with a new life, it's not very nice. Although I appreciate my boss checking in on me, if he was really concerned he would have asked months ago.
How do you respond to the sly questions that people ask? I actually read somewhere that you should just say "is there a reason you are asking? " but I want to hear how others go about it